Realistic Views on Sexism

I'm a 25 year old straight male who majored in cognitive science and psychology. I am a strong believer in equal rights and am against the sexual bias that occurs in modern day culture.
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Anyone else realize how sad the word ‘terminal’ is, and just not just in the terms of ‘terminal cancer’? The very essence of the word, according to the English language is ‘occurring at or forming the end of a series, succession, or the like; closing; concluding.’

So many things we do on a daily basis result in an end. Take a subway terminal, bringing you to that new place, be it for one day or the rest of your life. The same with airport terminals. You take the moment to climb that airplane, and you may never see the ground you just stood on to get to that terminal ever again. Every pebble you stepped on in the parking lot. The parking area that you waiting at in the blistering cold, writing doodles in the formed frost on the window, while you await that trolley that’s going to take you to the next stop in the airport. You greet him, you may never see him again. The man who helps you find a spot for your luggage and gives up his seat so you can get moving onward to your final destination. It’ll be your last time seeing him and you did no more thank acknowledge him and appreciate what he did. Then the trolley starts moving and you get go to the loading gates where you kindly allow the pregnant women who you let out first and give a hand with her luggage. You know nothing of where she is going, but you know she’ll make it and she’ll have that kid and he’ll grow up and become someone, maybe like you; who knows his future. Passing through the airport, you witness all these people; this mismatch of people rushing by. All making contact, be it bristling against your bundled-tight coat, making eye-contact and apologizing for their 3 year old who stands in line in front of you as you await for your TSA inspection. You progress through the line, maybe you get wanded or you get scanned. It’s an inconvenience sure, but what harm is it actually doing to you? You’ll likely never see that person ever again. You sit in the boarding area and you await your row to be called. You feel that anxiety of flying, deep down in your gut. You feel that tinge of jealousy when the first row customers get called first, then even rows, then odd. But for what? These are people you’ve seen ONCE in your life. You have no right to feel contempt towards them. Just like when you board the plane. The luggage bay is full? Slide your carry-on under your chair. See someone already having an awful day, be it bringing their children or just the look in their face? Offer to pull your luggage down (should you have any), and offer it to them. One tiny thing you are doing for a complete stranger and yet, you may have brightened their whole business or pleasure trip. And as you lift off, you may notice people uncomfortable, unhappy, bothered by this or that on the trip. 

Just remember, they are escaping something too. It could be work, a vacation, an abusive relationship, family, but they are looking for the same terminal disconnect that you are.

Everyone is leaving, going some place or another. That terminal disconnect.

It’s up to you to make it better for them.

Like it’s cousin — inspirational romance — the faith arc is a defining element in Christian erotic romance. God is in the mix. This is why — IMHO — love in both Christian erotic romance and inspirational romance is always a threesome or, in the case of a menage, at least at threesome. :)  

I just. I… am without words.  

Allow me to quote a portion of such erotica.

Fernao dropped to her knees and prayed.

“Gracious God, Father and Mother of us all, you promised your Spirit would intercede for us. Intercede for Peri through me, Most High. Recall to my mind the words from the ancient texts to help my sister now.”

She pushed the pad of her thumb against Peri’s clit. The little nub of flesh pulsed in welcome. Heat flared along Fernao’s thumb then up her arm like a flame racing along a line of gasoline. She hissed against the burn. A different kind of heat flared in her mind and inflamed her ears with words from Song of Solomon. As if entranced, she spoke.

“‘How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, And the fragrance of your perfume than any spice.’”

Ignoring the burn ignited in her own core, Fernao slipped two fingers into Peri’s cum-slick channel and continued:

“‘Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride; Milk and honey are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like that of Lebanon.’” 

klainespants:

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YES! Agree 100%. I linked to the video yesterday, you should check it out if you haven’t already. 

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SMITHTOWN, N.Y. (AP) — The biggest goal of Keeling Pilaro’s field hockey career happened far from an athletic field on Tuesday.

An athletics committee determined the 13-year-old boy can keep playing on the girls’ varsity team at Southampton High School, at least for one more season. The decision at an appeals hearing Tuesday reverses earlier rulings that claimed Keeling’s skills as a field hockey player, which he developed growing up in Dublin, Ireland, had developed to a level superior to those of girls.

When I see articles like this one, it makes me happy. Equality in schools is still an issue and the athletics committee tackled this one head on. 

fuckyeahsexeducation:

tuuli:

Being gay or even a drag queen does not make you an expert in anything trans* related. If you’re cis, you shut the fuck up and listen to actual trans people, OK?

Kindly stay the fuck out of our things!

Best regards,
your friendly neighbourhood trans woman

Reblog to cosign.

Case in point, Ru Paul.

Agreed. Just because you think you are an expert in all things in the LGBTQ community doesn’t necessarily make it true.

I want to put something into prospective and just one of many, many reasons why I back same-sex marriage.

Here’s just some of the benefits that married people have over non-married people:

  • Inheriting a share of your spouse’s estate.
  • Obtaining priority if a conservator needs to be appointed for your spouse — that is, someone to make financial and/or medical decisions on your spouse’s behalf.
  • Receiving family rates for health, homeowners’, auto, and other types of insurance.
  • Receiving tuition discounts and permission to use school facilities.
  • Creating life estate trusts that are restricted to married couples, including QTIP trusts, QDOT trusts, and marital deduction trusts.
  • Receiving Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits for spouses.
  • Receiving veterans’ and military benefits for spouses, such as those for education, medical care, or special loans.
  • Obtaining insurance benefits through a spouse’s employer.
  • Taking family leave to care for your spouse during an illness.
  • Receiving wages, workers’ compensation, and retirement plan benefits for a deceased spouse.
  • Taking bereavement leave if your spouse or one of your spouse’s close relatives dies.
  • Obtaining immigration and residency benefits for noncitizen spouse.
  • Visiting rights in jails and other places where visitors are restricted to immediate family.
  • Visiting your spouse in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.
  • Making medical decisions for your spouse if he or she becomes incapacitated and unable to express wishes for treatment.
  • Consenting to after-death examinations and procedures.
  • Making burial or other final arrangements.
  • Suing a third person for wrongful death of your spouse and loss of consortium (loss of intimacy).
  • Claiming the marital communications privilege, which means a court can’t force you to disclose the contents of confidential communications between you and your spouse during your marriage.
  • Automatically renewing leases signed by your spouse.

Why can’t everyone’s rights to marriage be equal? 

A few things to think about:

Marriage has a different, special, privileged legal status that legal planning cannot duplicate. Whether that’s a good reason for you, personally, to get married is another matter. But there are definitely benefits that you can’t get through paperwork. For example: What if you run into financial problems? Let’s say you end up with huge medical bills for something totally unforeseen and have to go bankrupt or have creditors come after you. Your house is basically just owned by two pals who invested in a house together. It’s not the joint property of a married couple, so there’s no protections for an innocent non-debtor spouse. The federal bankruptcy laws are what they are; you cannot change them through powers of attorney.

What if you are charged with a crime? There’s no spousal privilege if you’re not married because we don’t have “friendship privilege”; either you testify against each other as to private things in your relationship, or you get held in contempt.

What if there’s a problem with the way your will is drafted? Or what if it’s destroyed? Let’s say you revoke your will, intending to make a new one, and die before you can do it. Your money goes to your next of kin, not to the friend you invested in a house with - and she wouldn’t get to keep the whole house either, just his/her half. If your next of kin inherits, they could force the sale of the house if your husband/wife/partner can’t buy their half from them immediately.

Then there’s the power of attorney itself. It might not be as bulletproof as you think. Let’s say your wife’s in a coma after a bad accident. A relative could challenge it and might be able to get a judge to give them decision-making authority. You’re more like a roommate with a power of attorney for little emergencies, they could argue, like needing to get something out of a safe deposit box; life and death matters should be decided by family members, and if you’re not married, you’re just a long-time boyfriend, POA or not.

There are others that I can’t think of off the top of my head. Sure - you’re unlikely to need these protections, but when the situation arises, you might be suddenly grateful to be legally married. There are so many invisible privileges attached to marriage that we don’t think of until an emergency arises. If getting a power of attorney and having the house in two names were good enough, gay marriage wouldn’t be such a big deal - civil unions would be good enough. They’re not, because “married” gets you a special legal status. We give that special status as a reward for people committing to a permanent, stable relationship and therefore making society more stable overall (at least, that’s the theory). Your status as two good friends living together, even with powers of attorneys, is weaker than that of a married couple. If a situation requiring the benefits of marriage never arises, then you’ll never notice any difference. The secular reason to get married would be for legal protections you get with the status change. It helps protect you both now, and your spouse if you die first. But it does entangle you. If you want to be able to get out of the relationship easily and go your separate ways if necessary, then don’t get married. It’d be messier to split up. But if you’re completely certain that you’re a permanent family of 2, then marriage is the way to go. If you’re totally sure you’ll be together permanently, I can’t think of why you wouldn’t get married. But as I said, it does entangle you, and you can’t change your mind down the road without serious consequences.

These are memory-foam mattresses, and they are far and away the fastest-growing segment of the $4.6 billion wholesale market for U.S. mat-tresses. Memory foam’s market share has shot up from 14% to nearly 20% in just the past eight years. In other words, mattress shoppers are weighing the risk — bad sex — against the promise — good sleep — and are voting with their eyelids: They choose to snooze.

Interesting topic. I can understand how this can be true. A lot of people can sacrifice their sex life for a good nights sleep. But with vanilla sex on the way out, maybe the bed won’t be the ideal place anymore. Spice things up!

maileeeee:

realisticviewsonsexism reblogged your link: squid pro quo: Chivalry as a form of sexism?

Understandable. I can see how this could affect my post. I appreciate the feedback.

Of course. You’ve got a good blog going on and it’s really great that you can take constructive criticism without flipping.

Thanks! I want to talk about things with a universal view point. So many blogs lean one direction or the other. I want to be neutral. And I have no issues speaking about issues about men because there are a lot of men that don’t quite understand what they are doing and if I can make an impact in one person, that’s all that matters.

maileeeee:

realisticviewsonsexism:

realisticviewsonsexism:

Let’s begin this with a question. Is chivalry sexist?

The answer? Yes and no.

Here is why; Men have built up this logic that they need to, for example, open doors for women. The ideology of chivalry is that we are doing something kind for a women in an effort to…

I understand that completely. I created a narrow field intentionally to prevent from drawing it out more and more. If I were to give all the conditions of chivalry, it would be long and drawn out. I preferred to make it simple and use the views that most people acknowledge with chivalry.

In the future you might want to disclaim that and possibly cite sources supporting your opinion that this is the view most people acknowledge. These things are just such touchy issues that it never hurts to cover all your bases.

Blanket statements can also be an issue, as they’re by definition faulty.

I don’t disagree with your original statement, by the way, as I’m sure in many cases that is the intent men have when they perform chivalrous acts. I’d just like to see more flexibility in the argument.

Understandable. I can see how this could affect my post. I appreciate the feedback.